Food can be an aphrodisiac: taste, texture, and smell, awaken the body’s senses. How many people have you heard take a bite of rich creamy cheesecake and declare that it was as good as an orgasm? Lovers are often given nicknames like cupcake, dumpling, honey, and love muffin. The food-sex…

There’s so much evidence demonstrating the healing power of touch. An episode of the 1993 video series, Healing and the Mind depicts a week-long retreat for cancer patients. at Commonweal, a healing center in northern California. There is one scene of a patient receiving a massage. As the massage therapist…

Sex is the energy of life. It is the urge to merge that is built into all living things. It’s a drive. It’s part of our survival mechanisms governed by the hypothalamus. Sexual energy is vitality. Sexual energy is channeled through the body’s four levels: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual…

Betrayal is a core theme that affects all relationships. It is especially hurtful in romantic relationships. After all, the romantic ideal of relationships is “you will meet all my needs and I will meet all your needs and we will live happily ever after.” Of course, romantic idealism often gives…

Several years ago, I heard of a couple who had been together for seven years and married for four. At the time they met, she was going through a messy break-up. He had not been in a relationship since his girlfriend died three years earlier. The couple’s relationship started out…

by Sorah Dubitsky Several years ago, I was ignoring the whole Tila Tequila phenomenon. Calling her cable show A Shot at Love was false advertising. The show’s premise of a bi-sexual woman finding true love among competing guys and gals led to gratuitous scenes of lesbian kissing and hetero groping. …

By learning how to focus and direct your energy, you can turn so-so sex into Oh God sex. My theme for the past few essays has been soul-freeing sex. The philosopher Osho says in his book Sex Matters that sex offers a glimpse of oneness with God. Orgasm is a…

Let go of judging you or your partner’s performance and surrender to the power of sensory experience. The other morning while emptying the dish washer, I heard a radio commercial for a “male enhancer.” Of course, the product promised endless erections. The announcer’s last comment was a boast about his…

Learning how your partner likes to be touched increases the likelihood of having a long-term relationship It also feels good. In a class I was teaching this week about sexuality and the senses, I was amazed that the students didn’t seem to be able to relate to sex and sensuality…