Sex is what you make of it

Sex is the energy of life. It is the urge to merge that is built into all living things. It’s a drive. It’s part of our survival mechanisms governed by the hypothalamus. Sexual energy is vitality.

Sexual energy is channeled through the body’s four levels: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Each of these bodies affects how sexual energy is experienced.

At the level of physicality, sex is about the drive to reproduce. The capacity to reproduce is programmed into the DNA to make sure the species continues. At this level, sex is a mechanical response to a hormonally driven process.

In the emotional body, sex is about feeling Yes, it is about love and attachment, but it can also be about anger, revenge, jealousy, power, domination, control, guilt, self-esteem, and neediness.

In the mental body, sex is a story. The stories include enculturated ideas and beliefs filtered through one’s needs and wants. The stories are filtered through the emotional body making them into tragedies, comedies, or dramas, or all three.

At the spiritual level, sex is about union with the Divine. At this level, sex is about losing the self, surrender, awakening to the highest. You and your partner merge into the oneness that is the origin of creation. There are no stories, no emotions, even awareness of the physical body slips away. Only pure ecstasy.

Sex is the energy of life. Reproduction is part of our survival mechanism as a species. But the basic instinct to reproduce is colored by many, many influences. Emotions, cultural beliefs, stories, openness, physical health, our self-awareness all affect the quality of the experience. Sex is what we make of it. As humans, we have choices. We do not have to be driven by our stories, hormones, emotions, or cultural beliefs. We can become so aware of our underlying motives for wanting sex that our sexual experiences will carry us to the heights of ecstasy instead of plunging us to the depths of despair.